3/10/2024 0 Comments Enneagram type 2 sexuality![]() They want others to regard them as their "best friend," and to seek them out for personal advice, and to share special secrets and intimacies. ![]() They want to have a unique place in others' lives and to know privileged information about others that no one else knows. Thus, they may pursue such interests as massage, psychic readings, energetic healing, nutrition, and other ways of being of service as a way of making people feel good about themselves - and about having the Two in their life. They also begin to seek ways to make themselves more interesting and useful to others. Talking about "the relationship" with people becomes a habit, as Twos continually seek reassurance that their friendships and love-lives are secure and on track. "Relating" with people becomes a full-time job: they are constantly making new friends while maintaining a network of old friends. They get caught up with "people pleasing" and ingratiating themselves with others, looking for things to do and say that will make people like them. When Twos doubt that others want them, they redouble their efforts to win people over. When others feel crowded by the Twos' efforts to help, and try to set boundaries with them, Twos can feel hurt and insecure about the relationship and feel rejected. At such times, Twos may develop "boundary problems." They disregard their own boundaries, doing things for others that take them away from what they need to do for themselves, and they disregard the boundaries of others, doing things for others that they do not necessarily want done. ![]() They can get into denial about the extent of their own needs while insisting that their only concern is taking care of others. Twos get into difficulty, however, when they begin to attend to others' needs without adequately dealing with their own. They are constantly thinking of others, and they try to do nice things so that others will think well of them. At the office, Twos have a bowl of candy or a tin of cookies at their desk-not for themselves, but for anyone who drops by to chat. Twos are the first in the kitchen after a party to help out with the cleanup. They also remember your spouse's name and the names of your children and pets-plus who has which allergies and what their major was in college. They remember to send birthday and holiday cards long after their friends have moved away. Twos are genuinely interested in other people and in the details of their lives. When there is practical work to be done for others, healthy Twos will be there, throwing themselves into the effort heart and soul. They will stay up late to take care of children or older folks, drive across town to bring food, or see to it that others get medical treatment. Insofar as they can, Twos make good things happen for people. They want to share the good in their lives and genuinely enjoy supporting others with their attention and care. They focus on relationship and feel best about themselves when they are meaningfully engaged with others. Twos are easily the most people-oriented of the Enneagram types. Type Two exemplifies the desire to feel loved, to connect with others in a heartfelt way, and to be a source of benevolence and love in our world. Twos get into conflicts by being people-pleasing, flattering, ingratiating, clingy, worried, possessive, insincere, seductive, self-important, and self-deceptive.Īt their best, Twos are encouraging, loving, self-nurturing, constant, joyous, humble, forgiving, gracious, and compassionate. ![]() Generally, Twos are caring, empathetic, warm, thoughtful, appreciative, generous, other-oriented, tactile, affectionate, well intentioned, and demonstrative.
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